Creating Infrastructure for Healing

Excerpt: Creating Infrastructure for Healing

Course: Freedom From Pornography

Speakers: Matthias Barker

Healing the Wound

When we began, we discussed the internal conflict many of you face: a desire for spiritual values and meaningful relationships versus a need to address emotional wounds. Pornography, with its immediate visceral sensation, becomes a powerful, albeit destructive, tool for managing this distress.

The Path to Healing

The natural conclusion is to find substantive, visceral ways to address these wounds, aligning with our values and God’s best. The deepest work involves healing the wound itself. If the wound is healed, the need for harmful coping mechanisms dissipates.

Living in God’s Grace

We live in the reality that God has secured our belonging, not through our perfect actions, but through Jesus’s faithfulness. Our role is to live into this grace, enjoying the feast He has provided.

Practical Steps

How do we respond? We play a role in sanctification, maturity, and healing.

Therapy: Explore wounds related to family, trauma, or identity. Conversations with trusted mentors, therapists, or pastors can illuminate the context behind your struggles.

Infrastructure: Build a foundation for wholeness. Replace the immediate gratification of pornography with consistent, healthy practices.

Daily Routines: Infuse health and support into your life with daily routines. These create stability, addressing emotional needs in a constructive way.

Community: Cultivate deep friendships and involvement with people who love and support you. This goes beyond accountability to meaningful connection.

Replacing Harm with Health

Pornography offers a visceral fix. We need to find similar sensations in alignment with God’s will. Community and daily routines offer these.

Conclusion

Overcoming pornography involves more than just stopping a behavior. It requires addressing the root wounds that drive it. By seeking therapy, building healthy routines, and cultivating meaningful connections, you can find visceral, life-giving ways to address your emotional needs and move toward wholeness.

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Part 1: Stories of Struggle

Session 1: What is the Struggle?

Video: Introduction: Freedom from Pornography

Video: Stories of Struggle with Matthias and Ryan

Video: Healing Prayer to Break Chains

Topics: Early Exposure and Unseen Wounds

Session 2: The People

Video: Brittni’s Story

Video: Humanizing the Struggle

Video: Safeguard your Life from Porn; Warfare Prayer to Break the Chains

Topics: The Broken People Who Make Porn; Taking Action Against Using Porn

Part 2: The Roots of Dependency versus Design

Session 3: How Does This Dependency Begin?

Video: Ripping the Veil off a Dark Industry

Video: What’s in the Search Bar

Video: Exploring Wounds through Attachment Style

Video: Exposing the Lies of the Sexual Revolution

Topics: The Truth about the Industry; What’s Driving Your Porn Use

Session 4: Biblical Roots

Video: Knowing Your Enemies

Video: Rejecting Synthetic for Authentic; Looking for Patterns and Capturing Thoughts

Video: Inner Healing Prayer for Pornography

Topics: Three Enemies; Gypsy Moth Mating Disruption; Inner Healing Prayer

Part 3: Reconnecting and Reattaching

Session 5: Reconnecting With An Authentic God

Video: The Healing Power of the Gospel

Video: Habits for Healing with God

Video: The Three-Part Bible Formula for Freedom

Topics: How God Sees You; Wild Mustangs; Learn the Formula for Success

Session 6: Working On Self

Video: Breaking the Addiction-Shame Cycle

Video: Creating Infrastructure for Healing

Video: The Neuroscience of Addiction; What Porn Does to Your Brain

Topics: Judgement and Shame; Visceral Reactions; Your Brain’s Reaction

Session 7: Working With Others

Video: Practices for Building Community; Relationships of Trust

Video: How to Find Good Accountability

Topics: Communities; Who to Trust; Action Before Failure

Session 8: Healing With A Spouse

Video: Providing Helpful Accountability; Confess the Temptation, Not the Mistake

Topics: Being a Safe Listener; Sharing Safely; Listening Triad

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